Moving on from being dumped

Every one of us got dumped. I know it is hard to cope with that feeling, but we should be moving on from that painful thing.

I, I also experienced that unpleasant thing several times already. With that experiences, I learned a lot of things to move forward. It made me tough, strong and brave to face another day. Every distasteful moment comes with a lesson we must learn.

We can't oppose with our feelings toward a person. But what if, we express that feeling to that special person to us, but did not get anything even reply. Doesn't it hard to accept?

I'm listening to a radio show earlier while doing my work here in the office, the topic was "For girls, have you try expressing your feelings towards a guy? What happened after saying your feelings?" Then the DJ shared her experience from high school, she said, that she told the whole campus about her desire from this one guy from their batch. Unfortunately, the guy brought his girlfriend from the campus for the DJ to see that the guy has girlfriend already. That is so painful I guess, especially for a girl. But admiring that DJ she just let go with that offensive thing she had. She said she just ignore the guy until their graduation. And change her attentions to another things like to her friends and studies.

But in some cases, some people don't want to do that. Like me, I don't want to be call as bitter or something stupid. For me, befriending the guy, even it hurts should be done. Because at the
first place it is not his fault for you to feel special towards him. Unless he is giving you the reason to. Then again, he don't have anything to do with your feelings. If this happens, try to convert your social perspective. From the start you're having different feelings for this person and you know that there is noway for you. Look for something will make your interests acquire, for you to be more productive, less stress and positivity will come your way.

In the process of after dumping you, its okay to cry. After crying think of positive circumstances, so that you can forget the dumping moment. Moreover, think that you are like a dominant person. Think to yourself, why you are letting yourself being down by him? Why should I be crying for him, but as if he is thinking of me, he doesn't have any feelings for me anyway? Don't let your emotions weaken you. Remember, bad things came with some good things. Its the irony of life being balance. Stand up and be more confident to face the world because you learned. But don't let things happen again.

From hiding your feelings, its okay to do that, pretending to be numb. But for me its not helpful, you're just hurting yourself much than you thought. Thinking that you are strong in front of all the people but when you are alone you are thinking of this painful thing again and the cycle of emotions just rolling and rolling. And no cease of pain. My advice, seek for help. Ask a friend for an ear to listen, this will help you to ease the pain.

And lastly and summing up what I said, And forget all things about that person. Lightly ignore him day by day, until you move on, keep yourself busy, seek for a trusted friends, and always think positive.

I tried those, trust me.

-oNzey